How It Works

You can submit anything - as long as it's personal and in first person. No questions on behalf of someone else!

We require this because:

• Alias
  Helps you ask your question anonymously and track if it has been answered.
• Message
  Meant to give us the broader context and finer subtleties of your situation, so we can tailor our responses to you. Give us as much information as you like about where you are in life and what has prompted your question.

• Age, Gender
  This helps contextualize your question and formulate our response with more nuance. If you are writing about your relationship to someone (employer, partner, acquaintance, etc.), please specify the duration of the relationship as well.
• Readability
  Your message does not need to match the level of penmanship expected from a Ph.D. in English Literature, but it should be passable enough for people to read till the end. To this end, please also avoid using abbreviations.
• State your specific question
  Providing the details of your story is important, but don't forget to ask your question!

• Personal information
  Please do not provide identifiable information about yourself or other people.
  Example: "I graduated from X school in 2002" is too much information! Instead try: "I graduated from a private school in the early 2000s".
  Messages containing information that could "doxx" someone will not be answered.
• Links
  We do not accept messages that contain links because it is impossible to know what media the link leads to. The internet can be a scary place!
  We will not be opening any links for this reason and your question will not be answered.
• Derogatory Language
  We are committed to building a space where people are comfortable exploring the complexities of their lives.
  Language that is bigoted, threatening or perpetuates harm towards another group will not be posted.

The questions that get answered are based on our discretion. For the ones we do answer, please note that we are not experts - just young adults trying to navigate our own messy lives and hoping to help some internet randoms out along the way!

Sometimes, we may miss the point of your message. Other times, you may disagree with what we have to say or how we say it. We recognize the that we draw from a limited set of experiences and come with our own biases. But our constant attempt is to come at your questions with empathy and an open mind.

Also, did we tell you we are not experts?